How to keep sexual intimacy alive when you are trying for a baby

Trying to conceive can place significant emotional and physical pressure on a relationship. At Fresh Springs Fertility Services, we understand that timed intercourse or scheduled sex and medical tests can sometimes make closeness feel like a challenge.

Here is how you can intentionally nurture your bond and protect your intimacy during this journey.

1. Don’t Let Sex Become Just a Task

When sex is strictly scheduled around ovulation, it can begin to feel routine or stressful. Over time, this pressure can lead to anxiety or emotional disconnection.

• Prioritize Connection: Remember that intimacy should be a source of comfort and pleasure, not just a means to an end.

• Keep it Spontaneous: Try to maintain moments of connection that aren't tied to a calendar.

2. Redefine "Good Sex" and Intimacy

Intimacy is experienced differently by every couple-whether through passion, laughter, or tenderness.

• Beyond Penetration: Physical affection like cuddling, kissing, and massage can strengthen your bond.

• The Goal is Each Other: Focus on enjoying your partner’s company rather than just achieving pregnancy.

3. Communicate Openly and Honestly

Honest communication is your best tool during fertility treatment. If you feel dissatisfied or overwhelmed:

• Speak Gently: Share your emotional and physical needs without blame.

• Problem-Solve Together: Whether it’s trying something new or seeking a counselor, working as a team reduces tension.

4. Break the Routine

Fertility treatments often create predictable, repetitive patterns. Small changes can bring back excitement:

• Plan "No-Baby" Dates: Spend quality time together where the topic of fertility is off-limits.

• Small Gestures: Be affectionate outside of the bedroom through simple acts of kindness.

• Try Something New: Engaging in a new hobby together can help shift your focus.

5. Focus on Your Relationship Strengths

It is easy to focus on what hasn't happened yet, but don't forget to celebrate what you already have.

• Celebrate Your Commitment: Acknowledge the emotional support you give one another.

• Find Joy: Take note of small victories and moments of connection throughout the journey.

6. Protect Your Emotional Wellbeing

Stress and exhaustion can lower desire, especially when you feel pressured. It is vital for both partners to:

• Feel Loved and Desired: Ensure your partner feels valued for who they are, not just their fertility.

• Prioritize Self-Care: Allow space for rest and mental health support.

**Remember*: It’s Okay to Struggle